Caring for an Aging Parent While Facing Your Own Struggles

Caring for an aging parent is challenging. But doing it while facing your own personal struggles? That can feel overwhelming. I know because I lived it. As I dealt with the fallout of my own crisis—an unexpected federal conviction, public scrutiny, and the loss of everything I had built, I was also watching my mother’s health decline. The woman who had always been my strength was now the one who needed me.

Balancing my own pain while being there for her felt impossible some days. But through it all, I learned valuable lessons about love, resilience, and grace. If you’re in a similar season, here’s what helped me navigate it:

1. Accept That You Can’t Do It All

There were days when I wanted to be strong for my mother, but I barely had the strength to get out of bed myself. Give yourself permission to not have all the answers. You’re human, and it’s okay to need help.

2. Prioritize Self-Care Without Guilt

Caring for a parent doesn’t mean neglecting yourself. You can’t pour from an empty cup. Find time—no matter how small—to rest, pray, and recharge.

3. Set Boundaries & Ask for Help

You don’t have to do it alone. Reach out to family, friends, or caregivers for support. Asking for help isn’t weakness, it’s wisdom.

4. Lean on Faith When Strength Runs Low

Some days will feel impossible, but God’s grace is enough. When you feel weak, let Him carry you.

Caring for a parent while navigating your own struggles is tough, but it’s also an opportunity—to grow, to love deeply, and to trust God in ways you never have before. You’re stronger than you think, and you don’t have to do this alone.