Caring for an Aging Parent In the Midst of Your Own Issues

Taking care of an aging parent is difficult. Taking care of one while navigating your own issues? That’s just too much. I know, because I did it. While I was handling the fallout from my own crisis, a surprise federal conviction, public outcry, and loss of everything I’d worked for—I was also watching my mother’s health decline. The woman who’d always been my pillar of strength was now the one who needed help.

It was difficult to juggle my own pain and be there for her on some days. But in the midst of it all, I learned some important lessons about love, strength, and grace. If you’re in this same season, here’s what got me through:

1. Accept That You Can’t Do Everything

There were days I wanted to be strong for my mom, but I didn’t have the strength to get out of bed myself. **Give yourself permission to not have all the answers.** You’re human, and it’s okay to need help.

2. Prioritize Self-Care Without Guilt

Taking care of a parent doesn’t mean you have to give yourself up. **You can’t pour from an empty cup. ** Find time—no matter how little—to rest, pray, and fill up.

3. Set Boundaries & Ask for Help

You don’t have to do it all yourself. Ask family, friends, or caregivers for help. **Asking for help isn’t weakness—it’s wisdom.

4. Lean on Faith When Strength Runs Out

Some days will be impossible, but **God’s grace is enough. ** When you’re weak, let Him carry the load.

Taking care of your parent and your own issues is tough, but it’s also a chance—to learn, to love with all your heart, and to trust God more than you ever knew you could. **You’re stronger than you know, and you don’t have to go through this by yourself. **